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100 ways to make your wife happy
1. Praise her cooking
2. Praise her dress sense
3. Praise her choice of perfume
4. Don’t point out her mispronunciations in front of others
5. Never ridicule her
6. No sarcastic comments
7. Let her take all the decisions concerning home and kids
8. Help in household chores
9. Don’t give her the silent treatment after a quarrel
10. Talk about people
11. Talk emotionally
12. Don’t keep offering solutions to all her problems
13. Don’t interrupt her when she is speaking
14. Don’t contradict her directly. Do it indirectly
15. Listen attentively
16. Make eye contact when speaking to her
17. Take her fears and concerns seriously though it may not be so to you
18. Don’t comment on her physique
19. Don’t use the word No. Say No without using that word
20. Never criticise her parents
21. Don’t contradict the orders she gives to the children
22. Consult her on people matters
23. Don’t make her feel that she is begging for money from you
24. Praise her family and relatives
25. Be courteous and polite with a pleasing tone of voice
26. Make an effort to be interested in what she is interested in
27. Free her from cooking. Take her out to eat when she doesn’t feel like cooking
28. Help her in the kitchen
29. Let her have her way in most matters except your career and finances
30. Attempt to understand her unspoken messages and body language
31. Never forget her birthday present
32. Reminisce good times with her
33. Ask her about her childhood and family
34. Don’t compare her with other women
35. Don’t find fault over every small thing she does
36. Your acceptance and tolerance level of her should be much higher than that of others
37. Never say: I told you so
38. Never bring up the past except to rejoice good moments
39. Don’t highlight and remind her of her shortcomings
40. If she has a bad habit don’t condemn it but keep pointing out its negative consequences
41. If she irritates you say how it made you feel rather than scream at her
42. Don’t take her for granted
43. Remember wife is only a label. She is an individual in her own right
44. Remember she cannot meet all your expectations. Neither can you meet hers
45. Keep noticing and admiring the qualities you like in her
46. If you made a mistake or blamed her incorrectly, apologise immediately
47. Never raise your voice or your hand
48. Absorb her contradictions. Humans are made like that
49. Don’t look for perfection in her
50. Don’t try to be one up on her
51. Don’t make her feel inferior
52. Don’t show off your superior knowledge
53. Don’t make her feel beholden to you
54. If she makes a mistake tell her it is not important. Mistakes keep happening
55. Make her financially secure and independent
56. Say thank you often
57. Be grateful if you bond with her
58. Forgive her, in your own mind
59. Give more than you take
60. Don’t praise people she doesn’t like
61. Praise people she likes
62. Try to like those whom she likes
63. Remember her likes and dislikes
64. Notice what triggers her. Avoid pushing those buttons.
65. Like and appreciate her heroes and role models apart from yours
66. Watch movies she likes but don’t ask her to watch the ones you like
67. Make her cause your cause
68. Do some activities jointly
69. Allow her to choose your wardrobe
70. Hum her favourite tune in her presence
71. Don’t give her advice about her job unless she asks for it
72. Don’t say I forgive you unless she asks to be forgiven. Forgive her in your mind
73. Try to decipher her expectations and meet as many as you can
74. Don’t issue commands and orders. Request
75. Don’t say anything negative about any religion
76. Don’t ask her questions that would reveal her ignorance in front of others
77. Come to her rescue when she falters in front of others
78. When others make fun of her, don’t join in the laughter. Save her from embarrassment
79. Point out her good qualities, traits, skills and talents in an appreciative way to others when she is present
80. Surprise her once in a while
81. Don’t surprise her by inviting people over, without informing her
82. Don’t be suspicious of her
83. Tell her if you are coming late or are not having dinner at home
84. Call her when you travel and assure her that all is well
85. Don’t rely on your memory if she tells you a list of items to buy. Forgetting causes disharmony
86. What seems small to you may upset her. Don’t judge her by your standards and yardsticks.
87. If you are intellectually superior she will sense it and it will make her feel inferior. Compensate for it by making her feel emotionally superior
88. At any cost don’t make her feel insecure by using inappropriate words
89. Choose your words carefully when speaking during a quarrel. Don’t say anything you would regret later. Better to be quiet if emotions well up as they may bring up inappropriate words
90. Remember words hurt badly and are never forgotten. However much the provocation, practice restraint and wait for more sober moments to confront her. There is no battle to be won
91. A few great moments of togetherness don’t make for a great relationship. It is the small everyday moments that matter. Focus on these moments.
92. Bonding can weaken over time and with familiarity. Practice enjoying her presence that doesn’t change over time. It will keep the bond intact.
93. Connection should happen at the physical, intellectual and spiritual levels. Try to connect with her consciousness which is the same as yours
94. Align with her values and principles
95. Don’t tread on her beliefs and ideologies and try to convert her to your beliefs and ideologies
96. Always give her a second and third and fourth chance
97. Don’t give advice and knowledge in a condescending manner. Explore the topic with her by asking questions
98. Call back as soon as possible if you missed her call. Not calling or messaging is seen as a sign of disrespect and taking people for granted
99. Be vulnerable in front of her
100. Try and engage in conversations about profound subjects. Bonding will be deeper. Small talk does not bond deeply.
