Signs of maturity
You know that you are maturing when-
· You realize that the world measures you only on the basis of your latest success or failure and you don’t crib about it.
· You are at ease being alone with yourself as much as you are in the company of other people.
· You are comfortable doing nothing, when there is nothing to do, as much as you are comfortable doing something when there is something to do.
· You intuitively recognize the occasions when to keep quiet, and when to speak up. You don’t speak when you have to keep quiet and keep quiet when you have to speak
· You let the other person win an argument when winning is so very important to them.
· You do whatever is required to be done even though you do not ‘feel’ like doing it
· You have a pursuit or goal big enough to make the problems of everyday life look small in comparison.
· You do not use your sharp intellect, reason, and logic to get your point across when the other person is in the grip of emotion.
· The compulsive need to be always right and have the last word on every subject diminishes
· You dwell less and less on the past and more and more on what you want to create in the future
· You give advice only on subjects you are conversant with and tailor your advice to suit the maturity level of your listener
· You dwell on the past only to learn lessons from it
· You are more interested in finding a solution to a problem rather than in worrying over how it will affect you.
· Your relationships with people are far more important to you than your relationship with your ideas, opinions, viewpoints, beliefs, and pet theories.
· You are driven more by values, goals, and purpose and less by pleasure and pain, likes and dislikes, ego and self-image.
· Your expectations of other people are based on their level of maturity, of what they are capable of delivering, of who they are.
· You stop complaining about the design of life and how it could have been designed better by the Creator.
· You don’t take everything personally as though it was deliberately aimed at you
· You realize that people don’t act deliberately, calculatingly, and intentionally at all times. You give them the benefit of doubt that it was unintentional.
· You realize that people don’t forget deliberately. You don’t ask: How can you forget? Forgetting happens.
· You don’t trust your memory for important matters. You take the help of technology to remind you.
· You realize that much of life is happens over which you have no control. You just have to deal with whatever is presented to you
· You come to accept that there are evil people in this world and you have to deal with them. They cannot be wished away
· You realize that thoughts come to you and try to influence you. You don’t create all your thoughts. Your job is to pick and choose the thoughts you want to believe and act upon.
· You don’t believe every single thought that pops into your head
· You know your limitations and don’t get into situations that you are not mature enough to handle
· If you do get into situations that are beyond your capability you are willing to take wise counsel from those who are more mature than you
· You choose a career that suits your personality and interests and not a career that is socially admired.
· You realize that it is not possible to be interested in any subject we want. But there are some subjects we need to study whether it interests us or not, such as the art of investing.
· You do not spend too much time on people or activities that do not contribute to your growth or goals
· You maintain a balance between work and leisure, indoors and outdoors, movement and sedentariness, doing and being, having and giving, rest and activity.
· You realize that success comes at a price and you are willing to pay that price
· You know when to stop speaking and when to allow others to speak
· You do not interrupt a speaker mid-sentence but wait for a gap to interject
· You do not take decisions when in the grip of emotion
· You realize that earning money is not sufficient. Investing it wisely is more important.
· You do not bother about other people’s opinions when your conscience is clear
· You know that health is the most important aspect of life and nothing should be allowed to override it
· You realize that money is not evil but in the right hands is a great blessing
· That prolonged communication is needed to get messages across to people
· That everyone need not believe what you believe in
· That in matters of principle you should take a firm stand and not budge
· That if you want to persuade people you must first please
· You choose your words carefully if you get into a heated argument
· You realize that our likes and dislikes happen to us and we have to change them consciously